Taking Charge of Anger
Second Edition
Six Steps to Asserting Yourself without Losing Control
W. Robert Nay
Request a free digital professor copy on VitalSource ?- Figure out which of the five “faces of anger” are a problem for you, from passive–aggression to all-out rage.
- Recognize the early warning signs of anger in your physical sensations and thoughts.
- Master cooling-off strategies that work in the heat of the moment.
- Identify and change unrealistic expectations you have for yourself and other people.
- Communicate effectively when differences arise.
- Practice your new skills in everyday life—until they become second nature.
The second edition includes a new chapter on forgiveness, plus updated examples and resources. If anger is getting in the way of your goals—or disrupting the relationships most precious to you—the time to make changes is now.
See also Dr. Nay's Anger Management Workbook: Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior, which helps you build core anger management skills using interactive exercises, and Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences.
“Nay is an expert on anger management whose Taking Charge of Anger is a significant contribution.”
—Library Journal
“This valuable book provides evidence-based techniques that can help you gain control of anger and communicate more effectively. Kudos to Dr. Nay for producing a guide that draws on extensive clinical and research experience—and that is straightforward, practical, and user friendly.”
—Donald Meichenbaum, PhD, Research Director, Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention and Treatment, Miami
“If you're among the many people who want to express anger more appropriately, this book offers real help. Using examples of anger problems we can all recognize, Dr. Nay provides clear and direct advice. He walks you through steps to curb anger and replace it with assertiveness—so you can get what you need without harm to self-esteem, reputation, or relationships. The six steps in this book will help you take charge of anger once and for all.”
—Margaret Wehrenberg, PsyD, author of The 10 Best-Ever Anxiety Management Techniques
Table of Contents
Introduction to the Second EditionStep One. Understanding and Recognizing Anger
1. The Faces of Anger: Whom Do You See in the Mirror?
2. Behind the Mask: Understanding Anger and Its Expression
Step Two. Identifying and Preparing for Anger Triggers
3. Understanding Your Anger Triggers
Step Three. Pinpointing Your Anger Early On and Dampening Arousal
4. Anger Awareness
5. Dampening Anger Arousal
Step Four. Identifying and Changing Thoughts That Fuel Anger
6. Recognizing Thoughts That Fuel Anger
7. Rewriting Your Script: New Thinking for New Solutions
Step Five. Staying Cool Under Fire
8. Assertive Problem Solving: Expressing Anger Constructively in Conflict Situations
9. When Anger Is Aimed at You
Step Six. Staying the Course: Sustaining New Behavior and Coping with Roadblocks
10. Establishing New Anger Habits
11. Resolving Resentment and Considering When to Forgive When You Can't Forget
12. So You've Had a Setback: Getting Back on Track
Appendix 1. Self-Assessment of Anger Questionnaire (SAQ)
Appendix 2. Daily Anger Log
Appendix 3. Personal Anger Scale
Appendix 4. Anger Analysis
Appendix 5. Relationship Anger Profile
Suggested Resources
About the Author
W. Robert Nay, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in McLean, Virginia, and Annapolis, Maryland, and Clinical Associate Professor at Georgetown University School of Medicine. He has trained thousands of mental health professionals nationwide to work on anger management and relationship issues with their clients. The author of Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship and The Anger Management Workbook, Dr. Nay lives in Annapolis with his wife.Audience
Readers seeking a science-based approach to managing anger. Also a resource for therapists and counselors, human resources and employee assistance professionals, and clergy.Previous editions published by Guilford:
First Edition, © 2004
ISBN: 9781572306806