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Table of Contents

I. A Developmental Perspective

1. The Development of Women's Sense of Self, Miller

2. Women and Empathy: Implications for Psychological Development and Psychotherapy, Jordan, Surrey, & Kaplan

3. The "Self-in-Relation": A Theory of Women's Development, Surrey

4. Empathy and Self Boundaries, Jordan

5. The Meaning of Mutuality, Jordan

6. Beyond the Oedipus Complex: Mothers and Daughters, Stiver

7. Women's Self in Development in Late Adolescence, Kaplan, Klein, & Gleason

II. Applications

8. The Meanings of "Dependency" in Female-Male Relationships, Stiver

9. Relationship and Empowerment, Surrey

10. The Construction of Anger in Women and Men, Miller

11. Women and Power, Miller

12. The "Self-in-Relation": Implications for Depression in Women, Kaplan

13. Work Inhibitions in Women, Stiver

14. Eating Patterns as a Reflection of Women's Development, Surrey

15. The Meaning of Care: Reframing Treatment Models, Stiver

16. Female or Male Therapists for Women: New Formulations: Kaplan

17. Empathy, Mutuality, and Therapeutic Change: Clinical Implications of a Relational Model, Jordan

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About the Authors

Judith Jordan, Ph.D., is Director of Training and Founding Scholar at the Jean Baker Miller Institute, the Stone Center, Wellesley College, and Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School.

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Audience

For anyone interested in the psychology of women, the role of connection in all of our lives, and the transformative power of human relationships. It also serves as a text for undergraduate and graduate-level courses in women's studies, the psychology of women,the psychology of gender, and developmental psychology graduate courses.