I: Patterns of Connection

NURTURING

1. The Foundation of Loving

2. Cultural Myths and Marital Malnourishment

3. The Development of Nurturing: Common Treatment Problems

4. The Caretaker and the Needful Child: A Nurturing Collusion

MERGING

5. Closeness as Oneness

6. The Development of Merging: Common Treatment Problems

IDEALIZING

7. The Bedrock of Passion

8. The Development of Idealizing: Common Treatment Problems

9. The Adoring Parent and the Adorable Child: An Idealizing Collusion

II: Patterns of Separateness

DEVALUING

10. "You're No Good!"

11. The Development of Devaluing: Common Treatment Problems

12. The Judgmental Parent and the Guilty Child: A Blaming Collusion

CONTROLLING

13. Who's in Charge?

14. The Development of Controlling: Common Treatment Problems

COMPETING

15. Who's Better and Vying for Love

16. Winning, Losing, and Gender

17. Competing for Superiority: Development and Common Treatment Problems

18. Competing in Love Triangles: Development and Common Treatment Problems

19. Love Triangles in Couple Therapy