“Dr. Braaten distills research and decades of clinical experience into this hugely useful guide. The book throws a lifeline to parents struggling to understand a kid who seems to have given up. If you want to help children discover and enjoy their strengths, this book is a 'must read.'”

—Lisa Damour, PhD, author of The Emotional Lives of Teenagers


“Dr. Braaten's incredible commitment to eradicating the 'myth of lazy' shines through on every page. For our family, the book sensitively broke down issues that felt overwhelming. It provided clear, actionable steps that helped us reframe our children’s challenges and focus on their strengths and talents instead.”

—Ashley J., Coatesville, Pennsylvania


“If you’re pulling out your hair in frustration as you watch your child not care—and not care about not caring—this book is for you. Before you lecture your child yet again, or worse, give up, Dr. Braaten has answers that work and are simple to use. With the skill of an experienced safecracker, she teaches you to unlock your child's world and open up dazzling possibilities. Wise, practical, savvy, and warm.”

—Edward Hallowell, MD, coauthor of ADHD 2.0


“This is the book that any parent who has ever said, 'I don't understand how such a smart kid just doesn't care about doing well!' needs to read. It demystifies motivation and offers practical suggestions, guidance about appropriate expectations, and empathic advice. I wish I'd had this book when my own children were younger. Dr. Braaten empowers parents to help kids succeed, and, just as important, to let kids be partners in defining what success looks like.”

—Amanda Morin, educational consultant and author of Adulting Made Easy


“Dr. Braaten skillfully helps you understand where kids' motivation comes from and the complex factors that may cause difficulties. She also addresses a critical question: Are your expectations for your child a good fit for who they are and the future they want? Parents concerned about motivational issues will want to read this book!”

—Timothy E. Wilens, MD, coauthor of Straight Talk about Psychiatric Medications for Kids


“A remarkable book by a remarkable woman….This book will give you hope that your child can find their way to a happy, healthy future….For anyone who cares about the next generation, this book is a gift.”

—from the Foreword by Sheryl Sandberg, author of Lean In