The Heart of Couple Therapy

Knowing What to Do and How to Do It

Ellen F. Wachtel
Epilogue by Paul L. Wachtel

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“This is one of the most realistic books on couple therapy I have seen in my 40 years as a couple therapist and couple therapy trainer. It describes the course of couple therapy from the start to the end….From the start on it is very clear that the author is an experienced practitioner in the field. I particularly appreciated the many literal citations of what the therapist really says. This is very exceptional in the more than 50 books on couple therapy I have reviewed. Also, the inner conversation of the therapist is very concretely illustrated….I truly recommend this book to practicing couple therapists, old and young, and also to everyone who wants to know what couple therapists are doing….This is an original and rich couple therapy manual!”

Marriage, Families, and Spirituality

“The work reads very much like a novel, with case studies and empathetic statements by the author….The writing style is both concrete and immediate, and readers are left with the impression of sitting in Wachtel’s therapy room and witnessing an exciting display of therapeutic aptitude….The references and the index add value to this volume. It is highly recommended for professionals and students in all fields of therapy, counseling, and education. Highly recommended. All readers.”

Choice Reviews

“This is an excellent guide to the nuts and bolts of couple therapy. It also explores issues related to the quality of the therapeutic relationship and its specifics when working with couples or knowing when it is ethical to stop therapy. The author uses vignettes to illustrate her points, which provides a sense of realism and practicality. This book enables readers to experience the wisdom the author has accumulated through years of working with couples. It is useful to both novice and more expert therapists who may get stuck on specific issues. It also extends beyond therapy with couples as some of the principles the author discusses are applicable in working with individuals and families as well.”

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“This is the best book I know on the day-to-day practice of couple therapy. With a rare combination of clarity and depth, Wachtel illuminates how the most difficult topics can be addressed in a way that leaves couples feeling both reassured and motivated to grow. This book is a treasure.”

—Harriet Lerner, PhD, author of The Dance of Anger and Why Won't You Apologize?

“The author describes the moment-to-moment decisions a therapist is called upon to make from the first moment of the first session. I know of no better first book for beginning students wanting to know how to do couple therapy and for experienced therapists seeking new ideas. Opening this book, you feel the presence of a master therapist who has drawn from the wisdom of the field and passed it through the filter of her decades of experience, finely tuned intelligence, and deep humanity. I kept thinking, 'Yes, that’s exactly what happens in a session—and, hey, Ellen Wachtel has come up with a great way to deal with it.'”

—Daniel B. Wile, PhD, private practice, Oakland, California

“All couple therapists will benefit immensely from diving into this engaging, highly readable book. With honesty and depth, Wachtel offers thoughtful insights and suggestions to help therapists navigate everyday dilemmas. She guides the reader through such essentials as approaching the first meeting, transitioning to the second session, conducting a genogram, and working through core underlying relational issues. Reading this book encouraged me to deeply reflect on my own practice. It is one of those books that I will keep on my shelf for reference when I next get stuck or hit an impasse with clients.”

—Rhonda Goldman, PhD, affiliate therapist, The Family Institute at Northwestern University

“An invaluable comprehensive guide to doing couple work, from a talented, seasoned therapist. Wachtel doesn't miss any of the conundrums of couple therapy. She eschews pathologizing, instead fostering possibilities. This book is a 'must' for all couple therapists. Reading it is like having an excellent supervisor by your side.”

—Marcia Sheinberg, LCSW, Director of Training and Clinical Services, Ackerman Institute for the Family

“A marvelous book, filled with clinical wisdom. Wachtel shares with the reader her integrative approach that illuminates the essence of couple therapy. She offers couple therapists and students practical insights and direction about the critical choice points involved in this form of therapy. Rich with instructive clinical vignettes, this book should be on the required reading list for every couple therapy course, and part of every couple therapist’s library.”

—Jay L. Lebow, PhD, ABPP, LMFT, Senior Scholar and Clinical Professor, The Family Institute at Northwestern University

“The work described in this book is largely rooted in the same set of underlying principles that provide the foundation for good therapeutic work of all sorts. And as Ellen demonstrates so amply, these principles can be taught….Good couple therapy is not achieved by following the right manual but by establishing the right relationship and by proceeding in a way that builds upon the basic processes of change that have been shown in countless be the foundations of change in the way people act, feel, and perceive themselves and others. By building skillfully upon those processes and principles, the therapist...can enhance her effectiveness as a clinician.”

—from the Epilogue by Paul L. Wachtel, PhD