“The book provides guidance for therapists as they support clients in what is often a long and difficult process towards resolution of their issues.…This is a book that really looks at the work that is needed from an honest and realistic point of view and provides sensible suggestions for moving therapy forward. It will be a valuable addition to the bookshelf.”

—The Independent Practitioner (on the first edition)


“I like this book. It's straightforward and the procedures outlined in it make sound clinical sense to me....The authors offer a concrete approach to these troubled couples, and their book is peppered with case examples that are rich, illustrative, and all too familiar to this therapist. I recommend this book to anyone who works with families.”

—The Bulletin of the Menninger Clinic (on the first edition)


“This is the essential book for therapists about how to work with couples in the wake of affairs. Couple therapists have long struggled with how to bring a systemic approach to this major life crisis, about which opinions are plentiful and wisdom is rare. Baucom, Snyder, and Carrino present a masterful, integrative, evidence-based systematic approach, honed over decades. They superbly address both working through the crisis and exploring the complexities of this experience. The fully updated second edition reflects societal and technological changes and is filled with poignant examples and useful materials, such as letters that can be used as part of therapy. This brilliantly written book should be part of every couple therapist’s library.”

—Jay L. Lebow, PhD, ABPP, Senior Scholar and Clinical Professor, The Family Institute at Northwestern and Northwestern University