“Dr. Germer draws on many years of experience as a psychologist and mindful self-compassion pioneer. He provides a treasure trove of insights and ways of engaging with that sense of shame that can belittle and terrify. If shame has haunted you, this is the book to help you talk to the ghosts and set them free.”

—Paul Gilbert PhD, FBPsS, OBE, author of The Compassionate Mind


“Dr. Germer is a legendary teacher for good reason, and his voice—friendly, funny, encouraging, self-disclosing, tender, wise, and so compassionate—is with you on every page of this book. Shame is the deepest root of most people's pain; Dr. Germer offers many examples, experiential practices, and concrete suggestions to bring you gently through its layers to an unshakeable sense of your own goodness and worth. This book is really a gem.”

—Rick Hanson, PhD, author of Buddha's Brain


“Dr. Germer shines a light on one of the most painful and isolating of human emotions. The practices are skillfully designed, immediately usable, and powerfully effective. For anyone carrying the silent, often invisible burden of shame, this book has the potential to be truly life-changing.”

—Kristin Neff, PhD, author of Self-Compassion


“Few forms of suffering are as pervasive—or as hidden—as shame, the core conviction that something is wrong with who we are. In this wise and deeply humane book, Dr. Germer shows us a pathway that can free us from the trance of deficiency. With insight, warmth, and grounded science, he illuminates how shame takes hold in the mind and body, and how mindful self-compassion allows us to meet our most vulnerable places with kindness rather than judgment. The result is profoundly liberating—a rediscovery of our intrinsic goodness and our belonging to life. This book is a powerful and trustworthy guide for anyone longing to heal shame and live with a more open, loving heart.”

—Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance


“Self-compassion is a radically different approach to inner relating that changes everything, and Dr. Germer has led the charge toward this change. I believe that shame is the most toxic burden your parts carry—it underlies so many symptoms and problems. Through experiential exercises, paired with Dr. Germer's wise and warm guidance, you can release this sense of worthlessness and realize who you really are. You can shine again and light up your life. This is detox for the soul!”

—Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, author of No Bad Parts